Poetry Lane May 26, 2009

With Mother’s Day behind us and Father’s Day coming up next month, I found myself revisiting an old poem I wrote for my sister and her husband after my nephew was born.  He is now 18 months and his toddler stage may warrant a poem about the terrible 2s very soon.  But for now, I’m focusing on the importance of family and how we can take certain experiences like a baby being born, a birthday or an anniversary to find inspiration in our writing. 

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Looking down at you,
I cradle you in my arms,
My lips touch your soft forehead,
Sealing a fatherly kiss. 

We bond,
As your eyes open up widely to stare back.
You kick excitedly,
Smiling to expose your right dimple.

In this moment your face is forever imprinted in my mind. 
Dormant corners of my soul,
Parts of me I never felt,
Have come alive because of you.

Watching you sleep,
I pledge a silent vow to protect you. 
Knowing no man can protect me from you,
So small yet, the miracle of your presence disarms me.

I am more than a man, son, brother, uncle and husband. 
I am the one who will teach you,
I am the one who mold you as a man,
I am your father.

More than a composite of my past,
You are my future.
Redefining me forever,
I am your mother.

A quizzical look on my face,
I wondered if you were real,
Once you moved inside me,
The question was answered.

Without realizing it,
My own family was beginning,
Adding another branch,
To already deeply rooted generations,

The moment you came into the world,
God provided no words for me to speak.
He knew that only one emotion would suffice,
Love. 

Imagine my surprise,
To see you,
In a world of my own for so long,
And now I am surrounded by many.

The warmth of your bosom comforts me.
Mother, your voice, face and touch,
Naturally seem familiar,
Like strangers who’ve already met in different lifetimes.

Father, you stand tall and firm,
Today, I rest snugly in your arms.
Many tomorrows from now I will tower over my own child,
With the same look of adoration pouring from my eyes.

I am more than a thought,
That has been spoken as desires,
I am more than a dream of things come…
I am here.

I am family.

The Write Match April 27, 2009

How To Write a Short Bio April 20, 2009

The first time a magazine editor accepted my article I was ecstatic.  Then my health pitch for a baby article was accepted shortly after by a different magazine. I was stoked!  But, as I read the editor’s guidelines I noticed she mentioned a few things.  She said I would receive masthead credit (Yay!), a byline (Super!), and a two-three sentence bio (Yikes!).

A bio — what would I say about myself?!  After the panic set in, I took a chill pill and began brainstorming.  I didn’t have published clips yet.  And with no previously published clips, I was at a loss.  Thankfully, I came up with an idea pretty quickly.

The first thing I did was check out the magazine’s website to get a look at how other writer bios looked.  At first, I noticed that the authors were not only credentialed, but they had a lot of information included in their bios.  I didn’t panic because I remember reading that the magazine was open to new writers with great ideas and solid pitches (and “new” equaled me).  So, with a little more persistence I was able to find a couple of writer bios that included a simple sentence.  The sentence included where they’d written before and their area of interest.

Example: Jane Doe has written about women’s health issues for magazine X.

I decided to follow that format as well and not worry too much about my lack of abundant clips.  After all, every writer started without clips at one point, right?  Right.  I found many similar bios on their website that were simple and super-short (considering she asked for two or more sentences in the bio).  I realized that once my health piece came out for magazine number two, the first article would have already been published.  So, I included the first magazine’s name and submitted my lonely one sentence bio.  The editor was pleased with my article, she never mentioned my measly bio, and I’ve worked with her again since.  I’ve written a lot more since and wanted to share with other writers my how to advice on getting over writing about yourself (especially when you have limited writing experience).

• The Omniscient Point of View: Write your bio in the third-person because it sounds more professional than saying “I” all the time.  Reserve the first-person approach for your pitch letters when you’re describing your experience to an editor or agent.  When writing a bio, the third-person format sounds like someone else is writing about you and it comes off looking more polished.

• Check out the Doers: If you’re at a loss on how to start your bio whether it’s for your website, blog, book, or magazine article then just look at the experts for some direction.  Visit the library or bookstore and flip through magazines and books to get a sense for what works.  Book jackets are a great place to get ideas; you can find the bio in the back (usually with a picture of the writer).  Other places you can check out include Amazon.com and Google’s book search engine.  These online resources provide snippets of pages you can view which sometimes include the author’s bio.  Or you can just grab a few books from your own collection and read the bio’s of your favorite authors.

• Get Growing: So you’ve read some bios and realize that you don’t have anything that great.  You’ve been only writing for a few months and don’t have anything published.  Well, let me tell you that you probably have more than you realize.  Let’s say you’ve scored your first pitch for a scrapbooking or golfing magazine and you’ve never written anything before.  The fact that an editor said yes means your pitch was great.  Now, think about why you were interested in writing this particular subject to begin with.  For the scrapbooker, maybe it’s because for the past 5 years you’ve gone to scrapbooking conferences, run a home business making creative albums for customers or volunteer at a local YMCA teaching kids and adults scrapbooking activities.  Or maybe you’re a golfer in need of a bio to accompany you first article. Your bio should include the fact that you teach golf classes, work at a golf resort, or that you’ve been playing leisurely for several years.  The key is that you have experience and you need to highlight your strengths when writing your author bio.  It’ll show people why you’re capable of writing the article. The challenge of writing your first bio is overcoming the hurdle of not having any or a lot of experience.  Stay active in the writing world and realize that the more you pitch the more doors for writing opportunities will open up for you.  So get growing and write for a variety of publications.  It’s fine to pitch to the major players.  But, don’t forget to try out local and trade magazines — try college and university publications as well.  For the breakout novelist also pitch to smaller agencies or consider taking the self-publishing route.

• Be Interesting: Don’t just layout the facts about yourself.  Use engaging language and make yourself sound interesting — because you are. And if you don’t sound captivating then readers won’t think so either.  Let’s say you’re writing a piece about the health risks of spelunking or writing a book about the world of caves.  The chances are you’ve stepped into more caves than the average Joe.  When writing your bio share fun facts about yourself.

• Switch up Your Bio: Change your bio as your portfolio grows.  Don’t just cut and paste the same old stuff over and over again.  You’re evolving as a writer and you want to keep readers abreast of what you’ve been doing and the things to come.  Your bio should cater to the type of reader you’re writing for.  For instance, if your first book is for young children and you decide to write fiction book for teens tweaking your bio goes without saying.  For articles, you’ll want to keep your bios relevant — don’t include that you’ve written for AARP when you’re writing up your bio for a pregnancy magazine.

Writer bios are needed for a myriad of things such as press releases, websites, conferences, magazines and books. Remember it doesn’t have to be an overwhelming process to write your bio.  If an editor or agent is willing to take you on then you’re doing something write — ahem, I mean right.  So, take a deep breath and think outside the box when writing your bio.  Be creative; include facts while staying interesting, and use a tone that makes you look professional and confident.

The moral of the story today: Don’t sweat the short stuff.

I’d love to hear your thoughts about writing bios and your tips on how to overcome writing a bio (especially if you’re a new writer).

Google Earth: Too Up Close and Personal? April 3, 2009

What do you think about Google Earth’s street view project?  What are some of the ways you envision using this tool as a writer?  Any cons?  I’d love to hear your thoughts on the subject.

Reality Bites March 5, 2009

Slowing Down March 4, 2009

“Slow down, slow down!  The job will be there when you get there.”  This morning, I heard a man say this to a woman as she brushed past him in the subway.  I watched the scene from behind and realized that his statement meant more to me than to the speedy woman who pushed her way through a few more people (she was probably already at her desk whizzing through her morning emails at work before I could even step out into the cold). 

I’ve had a fast paced week; everything and everyone seemed to be moving at warp speed.  Or, was it me moving at the speed of light?  The most frustrating part about the whole thing is that I’ve been working my butt off and I have yet to see the fruits of my labor – speed and all.  So, what gives?  My aggravation – I think – stems from the fact that I’ve handed over my last assignment two weeks ago and my recent pitches are probably floating around the inboxes of magazine editors (and hopefully not their email trash bins).  Anxiety and self-doubt were slowly finding there way into my psyche.  My energy level was rapidly declining as I found myself reluctant to research ideas, work on my novel, and follow-up on magazine query submissions.  Why bother?  I was working hard and doing a lot.  But, I didn’t see the results. 

Surprisingly, it was the words of a stranger that helped me to bolt from the dark side of second-guessing myself.  Though I know I will inevitably fall into that dark place again and again, what truly matters is how quickly I bounce back.  Today was all about slowing down and recognizing the things I have done and not what isn’t working or hasn’t happened for me.  I’m focusing more on the positive things I’ve done in 2009 so far.  Here are a few:

• Actively pitching ideas to local and national magazines.
• My visits to the bookstore and library have helped me identify and study a few new markets in both consumer and trade magazines; this helped me to steer clear of pitching ideas that were previously done by the publications. 
• I’ve been writing my first novel and even when I fall off my schedule or it seems like I won’t do any writing at all, I commit to writing for 30 minutes.

After taking a break today and shifting my focus on the pros rather than the cons I feel less tension within myself.  Slowing down to recognize your accomplishments will help rejuvenate your passions and stimulate your drive for success.  Though writing jobs may not be flowing at the moment, I want to be sharp and ready when they do show up – not wrapped up in uncertainty. 

When was the last time you slowed down to give yourself a pat on the back?

Making a Difference While You Learn February 20, 2009

I love words.  Reading, speaking or listening to words is a moving, thoughtful and engaging experience.  Most recently, listening to Obama’s inaugural speech elicited these feelings for me.  For others it may be reading to their child at bedtime, the last conversation with a loved one, or  hearing words of encouragement after a bad day.  Words have meaning that can draw out various emotions from us.  My voracious appetite for words led me to a site that tests one’s knowledge of them.  Some are easy, others I use my understanding of prefixes and suffixes to ascertain the meaning (an old trick from my SAT days), and the rest, well let’s just say, leave me stumped.  In any case, the site is great for writers (or anybody for that matter) to use for two reasons.

One – You’re learning.

Two – You’re helping out a great cause at the same time.

The website is called FreeRice.com, the sister site of Poverty.com.

Through partnerships with the Berkman Center for Internet & Society at Harvard University and the United Nations World Food Program, FreeRice is able to make donations of rice to feed over two million people since the program started in 2007.  If you’re looking to improve your vocabulary and love to help a good cause swing by the website.  It’s fun, free, easy and another way to make a difference in somebody’s life — just by clicking away.

And you don’t have to spend a lot of time playing the vocabulary game to make an impact.  For every correct answer FreeRice donates 10 grains of rice through the United Nations World Food Program.  Now that may not seem like a lot.  But, when you consider that the organization has helped to feed so many people already that’s when you realize just how many people are playing.

If vocabulary isn’t your thing, don’t worry.  The site offers other subjects that you can test yourself in such as geography, math, art and science.  Better yet, schools will be back in session this week and if your child has been struggling with his multiplication tables — FreeRice offers test questions in that area. You’ll spend quality time with your child as you test his knowledge and help him improve his comprehension.  Or maybe you’re prepping for the GRE, LSAT or some other standardized exam, the vocabulary questions can be of use to you as well.  FreeRice provides its users with a chance to learn and make a difference at the same time.

So, what are you waiting for?  Spread the word around and watch how learning can help change the world.  Now that’s food for thought!

The Write Stuff: Penny-Pinching February 17, 2009

 

Four Reasons To Read Article Comments February 4, 2009

After I’ve read an article or blog post, I like to comment by thanking the author for a helpful piece, sharing my thoughts, or asking questions.  At times, what I’ve said has been found useful by other readers who also drop a line - which is great.  But the process I realize has been two-fold — a give and take situation — because I’ve also learned a few things by reading comments after a post.  The dialogue after an article is just as important to me as the piece itself.  Mainly because the author is writing from his (or her) perspective.  When readers chime in they may unload information that is diverse, helpful and new to both the author and other readers.

Now, I’m not promoting reading all comments; especially if there are many posted.  In that case, read the first few and then quickly scan the rest looking for links or a few words in CAPS that may catch your eye.

When it comes to reading the comment section here are my payoffs:

1. Learn something that wasn’t in the article: Maybe it’s the tip of the day, job hunting, or improving writing skills, whatever it is comments can provide a tremendous amount of information for readers.  And I’ve taken away some fabulous tips too.  But, reading the comment section of articles is an added bonus because I tend to find useful bits of information added by other readers.  For example, let’s just say there’s an article called “Six Great Places for Newbie Writers Online”.  Patrolling the comment section may reveal a seventh, maybe even an eight resource for new writers — score!
2. Twist the dialogue for a new take: Ideas for articles can be found everywhere if you’re in the mindset of looking for them.  The key is to create something fresh.  And reading the comment section of an article you found worthwhile may provide insight into your next piece – with your own spin, of course.
3. Minimize your own “legwork”: Sometimes articles can leave you wondering about a topic.  Before you venture off on your own research read the comments.  Readers may provide you with a good amount of information to help you get started.
4. Share your own perspective and gain new readers of your own: Whether you’re an expert or not, if you took the time to read the article then you may have an opinion or some advice.  Leaving a comment behind may just pique a reader’s or the author’s interest to check out your blog or website.  I know I’ve met some great people online by piping in and leaving behind my two cents.

Do you skip the comment section or do you scope it out in hopes of finding something new?  Think about that hidden pearl of wisdom.  It may just be tucked away between comments 8 and 10.

The Bet February 2, 2009

 The original link for this comic strip: http://pixton.com/comic/qf5990va